Everyone knows nowadays that people have complexes; what is not so well known is that complexes can have us
Complexes are psychic fragments, which have split off from conscience owing to traumatic influences or certain incompatible tendencies.
Do you know how a complex is formed? Do you know that it can control the acts of an individual?
The term complex entered the popular language, but not everyone knows how and why a complex is so strong in the mind of an individual.
Let us assume that a young child is called dumb by his parents and that this is repeated several times whenever he commits an act of disobedience.
In our early years, our rational faculty has not developed yet. When a parent – a person whom the child depends on to survive and that he considers almost a demigod – makes such a statement, the boy believes without judging. This information is stored in his unconscious. It is not questioned, because, at this stage of life, the individual has no judgment. His reasoning has not developed yet. Later on, it is not questioned either because it is unconscious.
This information – I’m dumb – is stored in his unconscious. Being unconscious, the boy does not know that he carries it within his mind. As an adult, his life will be impaired whenever he is faced with situations where he needs to use his talent. He blocks it because he is convinced – unconsciously – that he is dumb.
I have witnessed cases where an individual sabotages, albeit unconsciously, his career by judging himself incapable.
To remove a complex, it has to be brought to consciousness in a process of psychological analysis that may, at times, be lengthy.
Do not blame your parents for your complexes. Probably, they were treated in the same way by their parents. The ancient Greeks said that a person carries the curses of three generations of ancestors. Our Bible attributes to us the sin of Adam and Eve.
A final lesson: Watch your words when you talk to children. Words are powerful, and young children cannot judge the truth of them.
I am Roberto Lima Netto, a writer who seeks to present, in easy words, the ideas of Carl Jung and of notable mystics and sages. I also write fiction, always trying to convey lessons of life. After all, Jesus taught us that the stories are the best way to present ideas. Some of my books are: The Little Prince for Grownups, The Jungian Bible, The Amazon Shaman, In Search of Happiness, and A Boy, a metaphor for life, all available in Amazon and Kindle