The origin of a complex.
Complex. The term entered popular language, but not everyone knows how and why a complex is so strong in the mind of an individual.
Let us assume that a young child is called stupid by his parents and that is repeated several times whenever he commits an act of disobedience.
In our early years, our rational faculty has not developed yet. When a parent – a person whom the child depends on to survive and that he considers almost demigod – makes such a statement, the boy believes without judging, and that information is stored in his unconscious. It is not questioned, because, at this stage of life, the individual has no judgment. His reasoning has not developed yet. It is not questioned later on because it is unconscious.
This information – I’m stupid – is stored in his unconscious. Being unconscious, the boy does not know that he carries it within his mind. As an adult, his life will be impaired because, whenever he is faced with situations where he needs to use his talent, he blocks it because he is convinced – unconsciously – that he is stupid.
I have witnessed cases where an individual sabotages, albeit unconsciously, his career by judging himself incapable.
To remove this complex, it has to be brought from consciousness in a process of psychological analysis sometimes lengthy.
One last comment. Do not blame your parents for your complexes. Probably, they were treated in the same way by their parents. The ancient Greeks said that a person carries the curses of three generations of ancestors. Our Bible attributes to us the sin of Adam and Eve.
A final lesson. Watch your words when you talk to children. Words are powerful, and young children cannot judge the veracity of them.