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Theseus and Hippolytus – Fathers and Sons

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Theseus and Hippolytus

Theseus and Hippolytus

World Myths – Father and son

Theseus and Hippolytus

As we saw in a previous post, Theseus despised his Anima. This brings dire consequences for the remaining of a man´s life. Theseus was unhappy in his three relationships with women. Ariadne, who helped him escape from the labyrinth, Hippolyta the Amazon queen that gave him a son, Hippolytus, and Phaedra sister of Ariadne.

Hippolytus grew to be a handsome lad. Phaedra fell in love with him, but Hippolytus refused her advances. Afraid that he might accuse her, she tore her clothes, broke the door of her room and accused Hippolytus of rape.

Theseus expelled Hippolytus from his kingdom and threw on him a curse of death, asking the help of his father Poseidon to make it happen.

Poseidon acted. Hippolytus was leaving Ithaca, riding his rig in a road near the coast, when a giant wave surfed by a sea-bull invaded the way. The horses got out of control, and Hippolytus died smashed against the rocks. His body was taken back to Theseus that had already learned the truth from a maid.

What lessons do we learn from this myth? The relationship between father and son may be complicated. Sometimes the father sees in his son as a follower, the person to fulfill some of his unmet dreams. Other times, he sees the boy as a competitor. Unconsciously, he carves the beauty and the strength of youth.

In any case, this is not a healthy relationship. Throwing in the shoulders of a boy your unmet dreams may not be a comfortable situation for the son. Imagine a successful businessman who wants his son to succeed him in the helm of his company. If the son hopes to live a different life, we have a situation of either the son accedes to his father wishes and is unhappy, or not, and the father is disappointed.

The case of Theseus was different. A father may hold unconsciously envy of his son´s youth and strength. Theseus was an old man; his sexual potency not comparable to the time of his youth. The inclination of his wife for his son hurts him, hurts his sense of masculinity, hurts his pride. Enraged, he did not try to find the truth, but asked for the death of his son. Hippolytus died, and Theseus had to live his later years with his shame.

How many fathers unconsciously envy their own sons?

I’m Roberto Lima Netto, a Jungian. I write Jungian books –  The Jungian BibleThe Little Prince for Grownups — and Psychological thrillers – The Amazon Shaman, – In Search of Happiness.

Mitos do Mundo – Pai e filho

Teseu e Hipólito

Como vimos em um post anterior, Teseu desprezou sua Anima. Isso traz consequências desastrosas para a vida de um homem. Teseu foi infeliz em seus três relacionamentos com mulheres. Ariadne, que o ajudou a escapar do labirinto, Hipólita, a rainha das Amazonas, que lhe deu um filho, Hipólito, e Fedra irmã de Ariadne.

Hipólito cresceu e se tornou um rapaz bonito. Phaedra se apaixonou por ele, mas Hipólito recusou seus avanços. Com medo de que ele poderia acusá-la, rasgou suas roupas, quebrou a porta de seu quarto e acusou Hipólito de estupro.

Teseu expulsou Hipólito de seu reino e lançou sobre ele uma maldição de morte, pedindo a ajuda de seu pai Poseidon para que isso acontecesse.

Poseidon agiu. Hipólito estava deixando Atenas por uma estrada perto da costa, quando uma onda gigante surfada por um touro marinho invadiu o caminho. Os cavalos dispararam, e Hipólito morreu esmagado contra as rochas. Seu corpo foi levado de volta para Teseu, que já tinha sabido da verdade por uma empregada. Phaedra se enforcou.

Que lições podemos aprender com esse mito? A relação entre pai e filho pode ser complicada. Às vezes, o pai vê no filho um seguidor, a pessoa a que vai realizar alguns de seus sonhos não concretizados. Outras vezes, como no caso de Teseu, ele vê o garoto como um concorrente. Inconscientemente, ele inveja a beleza e a força da juventude.

Em qualquer caso, não se trata de uma relação saudável. Jogar seus sonhos não realizados nos ombros de um garoto pode não ser uma situação confortável para o filho. Imagine o caso de um empresário bem sucedido que quer que o seu filho o suceda no comando de sua empresa. Se o filho deseja uma vida diferente, temos uma situação de conflito. Ou o filho acede aos desejos do pai e vive infeliz, ou não, e o pai fica decepcionado.

O caso de Teseu é diferente. Ele tem inveja, ainda que inconscientemente, da juventude e força que vê no filho. Esta inveja pode causar problemas. Teseu era um homem mais velho, sua potência sexual não é comparável a de sua juventude. A atração de sua esposa por seu filho o machuca, fere seu senso de masculinidade, fere seu orgulho. Enfurecido, não busca a verdade, mas pede a morte do filho. Hipólito morre, e Teseu teve de viver seus últimos anos com seu arrependimento.

Quantos pais, ainda que inconscientemente, invejam seus próprios filhos?

I was involved in the business world, as an executive of large companies and university professor since recently. I was the president CSN, the largest steel-mill of Latin America and was responsible for its turn-around. My first encounter with the teachings of the Swiss psychologist C. G. Jung, one of the greatest geniuses of the 20th Century, was during my midlife crisis. Reading "Man and his Symbols" at that time, inspired me to go into Jungian analysis and to begin devouring the writings of Jung and his disciples. Since then, I've been studying psychology, especially Jungian psychology and, after reaching my seventies, I decided to become a full time writer, specializing on books on Jungian psychology and psychological thrillers. Every masterpiece of literature can be absorbed through multiple interpretations, and yield powerful insights for our daily lives. My first Jungian book, “The Little Prince for Grown-ups“, in its fourth edition in Brazil, was based on the famous book of Saint-Exupéry. The second, - “The Jungian Bible” - interprets some stories of the Old Testament and world myths. As I get older and, with a bit of luck, wiser, I want to pass on to the younger generations the lessons life has taught me. Jesus Christ taught that it was easier to sell ideas with stories. Following the Master, I published in English "The Amazon Shaman" and "In Search of Happiness", two psychological thrillers around the theme of happiness.

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